The brutal truth most people don't want to hear? They're stuck in the same cycles because they want the feeling of progress without doing the actual work. As another year begins, we witness the predictable pattern: ambitious resolutions set in January, abandoned by February. The gym empties out, vision boards collect dust, and excuses resurface like clockwork.
This episode cuts through the noise to reveal what truly drives lasting transformation. It's not about motivation—it's about an identity shift. Most people approach change backward. They focus on what they want to accomplish rather than who they need to become. They say "I want to lose weight" instead of "I am someone who prioritizes my health." They set goals without changing the underlying identity that keeps pulling them back to old patterns.
Your brain is masterful at self-deception. It will rationalize quitting by disguising avoidance as growth and isolation as strength. It will convince you that walking away was the mature choice when you never even tried to address the real issues. To break free from this cycle, you need more than just goals—you need a fundamental shift in how you see yourself and a system that forces execution regardless of how you feel.
The formula for actual change comes down to four essential elements: deciding who you want to become (not just what you want to accomplish), making action non-negotiable (like paying bills or going to work), cutting the dead weight (whether toxic relationships or self-limiting excuses), and building proof of your new identity through consistent execution. With each follow-through, you accumulate evidence that you've already changed, making it increasingly difficult to revert to your former self.
If you're ready to make 2025 different—truly different—stop planning and start executing. The path forward isn't comfortable, but neither is staying stuck in the same place watching another year pass by. What will you choose?
i4L Podcast: Uncomfortable Wisdom for a Better Life: Information & Insight for Your Life™
The i4L Podcast delivers real insight for people who are done chasing easy answers.
Hosted by Daniel Boyd, a former military engineer, licensed counselor and therapist at the master’s level, and lifelong truth-seeker, this show tackles the uncomfortable truths behind growth, trauma, ego, relationships, and identity.
We blend lived experience with peer-reviewed research to break down what actually helps people evolve.
From Spiral Dynamics and emotional regulation to true narcissism, self-deception, and post-trauma integration, this isn’t your typical performative self-help. It’s Information & Insight for Your Life™.
If you’re tired of the noise, you’re in the right place.
🔍 Subscribe to join a growing community of thinkers, seekers, and skeptics ready to grow through what they’d rather avoid.
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Real Talk Add-on:
This podcast has evolved over the last three years; just like I have, and just like (hopefully) we all do.
Some episodes will land hard. Some might miss. That’s the reality of growth. It’s not always polished, but it’s always real.
And yeah, let’s be honest: the algorithm rarely favors shows like this.
Not when it’s built on nuance instead of outrage.
But that’s not the point.
If an episode hits you in a way that matters, share it with someone who’s ready for more than surface-level.
This isn’t a performance. This is the work.
And the ones who need it most?
Sometimes they’ll only hear it when it’s placed directly in front of them. By another human.
The i4L Podcast delivers real insight for people who are done chasing easy answers.
Hosted by Daniel Boyd, a former military engineer, licensed counselor and therapist at the master’s level, and lifelong truth-seeker, this show tackles the uncomfortable truths behind growth, trauma, ego, relationships, and identity.
We blend lived experience with peer-reviewed research to break down what actually helps people evolve.
From Spiral Dynamics and emotional regulation to true narcissism, self-deception, and post-trauma integration, this isn’t your typical performative self-help. It’s Information & Insight for Your Life™.
If you’re tired of the noise, you’re in the right place.
🔍 Subscribe to join a growing community of thinkers, seekers, and skeptics ready to grow through what they’d rather avoid.
🎤
Real Talk Add-on:
This podcast has evolved over the last three years; just like I have, and just like (hopefully) we all do.
Some episodes will land hard. Some might miss. That’s the reality of growth. It’s not always polished, but it’s always real.
And yeah, let’s be honest: the algorithm rarely favors shows like this.
Not when it’s built on nuance instead of outrage.
But that’s not the point.
If an episode hits you in a way that matters, share it with someone who’s ready for more than surface-level.
This isn’t a performance. This is the work.
And the ones who need it most?
Sometimes they’ll only hear it when it’s placed directly in front of them. By another human.Listen on
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